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About Kat_mira

Hi! My name is Cynthia Aralu. I started this blog to write about anything that comes to my head basically. Anything on my mind that I need to get out. This blog runs along the same wavelength of my catalogued thoughts series which I started later on, on Instagram. However, when I really think of the theme of this blog, what springs forth readily to me is, "From Here to Space". Here, being the established and space being, the largely unexplored. I write because words flow from me, through me, in me, and my voice has never been the greatest at conveying them. I post because I want someone out there, in some corner of the world to read and connect deeply to my words. I want to provoke thought and bring peace to people through my writing. I also want that person reading to feel a little less alone in the overwhelming vastness that is this universe.

The Disregarded Other

By Cynthia Aralu

There was a twitter post from a woman saying that it would be great if a better device for a smear test is developed so that the cervical screening did not hurt. 

She took down this post because she got so much heat for it from Nigerian doctors, I think, because it was cervical cancer prevention week and there was a campaign ongoing in Lagos to get as many Nigerian women tested for free. But I thought her post was a great idea. Innovate. How is it ever bad to innovate?

I saw another Twitter post of a Doctor that was some sort of follow on quip from that post.

“Female practitioners and women who have actually screened agree too that it is not painful or harmful just inconvenient!”

A very obnoxious interpretation of the “minuscule data” he has gotten from a Q&A he started on Twitter. 

It irked me. What about the women who felt pain during the smear test? Were they lying about their experience and can something not be done to help their experience? A problem should always give birth to innovation but if the problem is pushed away or hushed, how in the world would people do something about it?

I explained to him that he was not being honest to the conversation if he dismisses the experience of the women who actually found it painful. I agree that the smear test is a necessary test and a lot of women find it uncomfortable but to some, it is very painful. Multiple truths can co-exist without excluding each other. I even presented a possible reason for this pain to him. The cervix might not be lying in the normal position.

His response irked me even further. I knew being unreasonable was his choice, so, I did not bother responding. However, as I lay in bed trying to sleep, thoughts played through my head of what my opinion on this is, so, I decided to write it down instead of just having a massive debate in my head. Man, I love writing but it has such bad timing sometimes, and it costs me sleep. But who needs sleep? Sleep is for the weak. But yeah, I’m going to pay for this when it’s time to get up for work.

Anyway, his response went like this:

“We’re not dismissing it. We try to allay the fears of other women by reassuring them based on the opinion and experience of most women who agree that it is uncomfortable, very uncomfortable sometimes, often painful too but only a few times unbearable except something is wrong.”

First of all, blatantly making a general statement, as he had done initially, that the test is not painful but only inconvenient, already dismisses the people who feel pain. I thought the duty of the doctor is to give the entire truth about a procedure and not one truth. If I hadn’t said something, it is doubtful he would have mentioned the other side? That to me is gaslighting. 

1 in 5 women have a tilted cervix. Why would something that common be seen as a problem, if it is unlikely to cause health issues. Of course, there are cases where pain during a smear test could indicate that there is something genuinely wrong. 

My first cervical screen was fall of 2020 and it hurt a lot. The lady chose a large speculum because it was “appropriate” for me. It is a pure mystery to me how she made that assessment, but the pain was unbearable. She just couldn’t get the speculum in the right position to allow her the movement to take a sample using the brush and she kept pushing. Then, she went for a speculum of a smaller size, highly doubtful it would be good enough to retrieve enough “cells” from my cervix for an analysis. It still hurt slightly and was mostly uncomfortable but it was better. She mentioned that my cervix is positioned differently and I felt so apologetic for troubling this lady with my “abnormal cervix” that I even apologised. She told me that I would have to come back for another screen if the lab thinks the cell sample she had gotten was insufficient. I was terrified at the prospect of going back. Thankfully, the result came back negative and I was informed my next screen would be in 3 years. I should mention that she did give me the option to quit the test but I’ve always been a trooper, so, I stayed. I have to mentally prepare myself for my next screen and I think I will have my earphones in at my next appointment. 

The loudest voices usually drown out the “other” and they are not always accurate. I just think, how many women have kept quiet about this pain because they were told there is something wrong with them, because of loud voices such as this one, and how has this stifled the innovation of a better speculum for the woman with an inverted cervix, who feels pain. 

To be fair, the doctor on Twitter sounds like a pushy Nigerian doctor, who is only concerned about the results and not the state of mind of the patient. Perhaps, this is a massive generalisation of Nigerian doctors. Perhaps, this case is only isolated to “Twitter Nigerian doctors”. Either way, it annoys me. 

I found a blogpost written by Dr. Streicher and she has a humorous and interesting take on this. 

Here is a snippet from her blogpost. 

“Finally, if you are not an easy fit, I would skip the martinis, but you’re probably better off seeing a gynecologist as opposed to a general doctor for your annual exam. Gynecologists are not only the most experienced at inserting speculums, but have multiple sizes that vary in length, width and how far they open.”

Click here to learn more about her take:

https://www.drstreicher.com/dr-streicher-blog/2015/8/speculums-are-not-one-size-fits-all

To give you a little background on her, Dr. Streicher is currently a Clinical Professor of Obstetrics and Gynecology at Northwestern University’s medical school, The Feinberg School of Medicine. She is the founder and medical director of the Northwestern Medicine Center for Menopause and the Northwestern Medicine Center for  Sexual Health . 

In all honesty, while her accomplishment is impressive, I trust her judgement without even meeting her, because she acknowledges that I exist and I am not the problem. 

Thank you for reading/listening to today’s post. Remember to like this post and share it with your friends if you enjoyed it. Follow me on my blog, katmira’s blog or my podcast, Amara’s Musings, to receive notifications whenever I have a new post. You can also subscribe below to get an email notification whenever a new blog post is out. This is particularly helpful if you don’t have a WordPress account.

Let it be, until we meet again or “Ka ọ dị” as it is said in Igbo.

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Dear Me,

By Cynthia Aralu

Hi everyone. Welcome to another episode on my blog, Katmira’s blog, or podcast, Amara’s Musings, depending on which platform you are listening in on or reading.

At the risk of stating the obvious, the Year 2021 ends in 2 days. I started the year with God and I am ending it ever aware of God’s presence and hand in my life. I feel loved by God and I know nothing comes close to touching that. I am aware that I am loved just because. It is a very strong knowledge and a beautiful place to be in. I hope to stay here forever. I am thankful I have God as my Father. I pray He watches over and guides our every move and decision in the New Year. In Jesus’ name. Amen.

I decided to write a love letter to myself. Perhaps, you will be able to read or listen to my love letter, tell yourself you are beautiful and truly believe it. Thank you in advance for reading or listening to this post. Thank you for sticking with me throughout the year, when I was consistent and not so much that. Thank you for the compliments. I am thankful that my voice has brought peace to you. Thank you to all who promoted my blog and podcast. It means a lot to this girl who wants to reach as many hearts as possible but still stay hidden. And as always, I hope you enjoy this!

Dear Me,

Hi there! What a year you’ve had. You started the year not sure of what direction your career or future was going to go but you had trust in God and which ever way He meant for you to go and you persevered.

Thank you for being courageous this year. Actually, you have been pretty courageous these past four years being in a foreign country with no family around you. 

I guess instead, thank you for choosing courage every single time this year you could have let fear and doubt get the best of you. For the numerous times you have chosen love, thank you Me. For the times, you have risen above and allowed the Holy Spirit to lead you, Thank you. 

The bible says that we rejoice in our suffering, knowing that suffering produces endurance, and endurance produces character, and character produces hope, and hope does not put us to shame, because God’s Love has been poured into our hearts through the Holy Spirit who have been given to us (Romans 5:3-8). You are going to need that perseverance, courage, hope and trust in God and His Love once again in the New Year, love.

Look at you. You are no longer in crippling pain. Living is so much easier now. 

Look at you. You are no longer in darkness. You feel. You laugh and feel your laughter bubbling over in your chest. 

Thank you for choosing to grow. Thank you for reaching this level of self love, growth and self-confidence. I know you still have ways to go but you are always willing to do the work. 

Thank you for choosing to reach this level of knowing God and wanting to know more of Him. 

I can’t believe how far you have come. You can only go up from here with God’s help. 

Thank you for choosing love and being willing to trust in love again. Since God is love, it makes absolute sense that you would always come back to the core of who you’ve always been. 

Thank you for choosing peace. Thank you for choosing you. 

To the beautiful me,

Who is just beginning to grasp how beautifully made she truly is. 

Signed Me,

Who is in love with all that she is, everything, the up, down and the in-between.

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Just a Story

By Cynthia Aralu

A Story, An Idea…

Hi everyone! I know it has been such a long time since I have actually come on here and posted something. But, I’m glad that I’m finally doing it, to be honest, because all weekend, I have actually been stalling to do this. I’m actually proud of myself because I wrote a couple of things that I can actually post on my blog and my podcast. This is titled “Just A Story” and my name is Cynthia Aralu.

Here it goes.

I think what we are seeing right now is people telling their stories but from a perspective different from what is considered the norm and other people thinking that they can learn from people’s trauma instead of living, experiencing and making their own path or finding what works for them. Isn’t that interesting?

I believe I had to stop to realise that people’s stories are their stories and may or may not work even for them, but this is what they are selling right now. Yet, a lot of people latch on to them like these stories are truth. 

I mean, how many ways have I changed in the past 2 years; it is insane and beautiful at the same time just how much I have. 

How many ways will these people change in the future? It seems unwise to latch on to their truth like it is gospel. 

I have my gospel, my truth, and that is found in the bible. The Truth is unchanging. That is what I latch on to. That is my reason for latching on at all. 

Thank you for reading or listening to my post; the telling of this story. If you liked it, follow me on my blog, KatMira’s Blog or like and comment on this post and you can also listen to me on my podcast, Amara’s Musings. You can also subscribe below to get an email notification whenever a new blog post is out. This is particularly helpful if you don’t have a WordPress account.

Until next time, Cheers!

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Because I’m Alive

By Cynthia Aralu

Inhale…

It has been a while since I have written with the intention to post, or should I say, anything that I categorise as worthwhile to post or something that doesn’t give people ammo to try to manipulate me.

It is inevitable to share a ton when I bare my soul to the e-notepad. However, in the past I mostly wrote in such a way as not to be understood per say, and yet, giving the reader free rein to feel and come to their own interpretation. I definitely found it interesting and lovely to find people engaging with my words.

I wrote something this night. It is so short that I wonder if it can be categorised as poetry. However, here it is. Enjoy!

Because I’m Alive

By Cynthia Aralu

I guess those things are things you can worry about;

Because I am alive.

Isn’t it silly that you worry when I am alive?

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And that’s it. I told you it was short. Thank you for reading or listening.

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Lady Luck

By Cynthia Aralu

I wrote this beautiful poem recently. I feel you all on here appreciate my poetry so I made a conscious note to write something. Work tends to rob me of my creative energy but I was happy to create this. It speaks of yearning and of love; A love that reassures. I feel we all need that.

I hope you enjoy this!

Lady Luck

She is a churning mix of the sun, the moon and the stars. 

She is my universe. 

She shines so brilliantly, 

Too painful to watch in the past,

Seemingly out of my reach. 

Steady, she says,

I am here, she reassures me. 

Like a shroud of heat,

She envelopes me.

I feel her fire. 

Warmth, 

That is what she is. 

For her, my heart burns.

All for my lady who is heavenly,

Grit just as much earth. 

Luck really is a lady. 

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An Ode To My Coils

By Cynthia Aralu

Hello everyone!

Here’s a poem I wrote about my hair. I had just cut off my chemically straightened hair, fall of 2017, and was just discovering the nature and texture of my coily hair for the first time. My hair had been chemically straightened, prior to this, when I was too young to remember what it was originally. So, this was all a very new journey for me, with a lot of mixed emotions.

Poetry was in everything for me, it flowed so easily to me back then. I’d venture to say it kept me company. I hope you enjoy this original. It was fun and playful writing this.

An Ode To My Coils

Helpless to H2O’s liquid touch,

Ever softly my kinks purr,

There must be magic in the water,

For its essence is quite the enchanter,

Entrancing every coil it encounters,

Undeniably taking no prisoners.

Demurely my coils stretch out,

Excitedly they spring back,

Moving as though with two left feet,

With a core that now is all but mush,

All symptoms of a full-blown crush,

My clever zealous hands,

The fervent facilitator of this romance.

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My Reflection: Mark Chapter 1

By Cynthia Aralu

– I believe in the forgiveness of sins (baptism of repentance for the forgiveness of sins). 

– John spoke of being unworthy to untie Jesus’ straps. “Lord, I am not worthy”

– John spoke of a baptism with the Holy Spirit, which Jesus would perform, unlike the baptism with water John did. John regarded this as a higher baptism than his. 

– All in the space of 11 verses, Mark speaks about the forgiveness of sins, which I recognise and believe, the power of baptism and confession for repentance, John’s announcement and baptism of the One, that comes after him, Who will baptise with the Holy Spirit (a baptism which he considers greater than his baptism with water), God the Father, God’s anointing and proclamation of His Son, in whom He is well pleased (God, the Son) and God the Holy Spirit. Confirmation of the Holy Trinity. Three Persons in One God. I was thrown when I recognised this. 

– However, why did people believe John? Was it because he fulfilled Isaiah’s prophecy? Sidebar: I recently thought that the fact that Isaiah’s prophecies came true gives him credibility to be believed.

– Jesus began His ministry after John was put in prison. 

– What is the good news?

– Jesus taught like He had authority and first hand knowledge of the Kingdom. 

– Jesus was referred to as “The Holy One of God” by an impure spirit which Jesus cast out. 

– It is interesting to note that Jesus has been referred to as “The One” twice already. 

– It was important to Jesus to have solitary time to Himself for prayer. 

– Jesus was popular. People needed Him. 

– Jesus’ priority was to preach the good news. 

– Jesus had both introverted and extroverted qualities. 

– He preached in the synagogue with authority. He also went off, away from people to spend some time in solitude. 

I would like to say, these are my notes and my reflections. I do not claim to have all the answers, as you may have realised if you listened to the recording or read the blog post. I was asking questions, questions which I believe its answers will be revealed to me in time, when the time is right.

Thank you for reading or listening to today’s post. Remember to like this post and share it with your friends if you enjoyed it. Follow me on my blog, katmira’s blog or my podcast, Amara’s Musings, to receive notifications whenever I have a new post. You can also subscribe below to get an email notification whenever a new blog post is out. This is particularly helpful if you don’t have a WordPress account.

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